Well for one, I've cut anime out of my life. (no flame plz). I don't work so that helps. I don't play any games cause everyone I played with now lives on the other side of the world.
Turn your otakuism in your study. Play games (VNs) only to realize that you really suck at the language and are only good at reading, but even then you still suck.
long story short, life sucks and theres not enough time in the world. You will have to cut something to make time for others (for most of us thats probably sleep).