letting people walk all over you is what I meant. I do feel terrible for saying it but I thought it would get my point across a lot better but this seems to have failed so I must apologise to all our French friends. je suis desole.
the reason everyone was negative towards him is because we don't want that stuff here that's all good but right now you're saying that everyone should reply nicely then as you said this will encourage that kind of behaviour. so one person replying nicely is fine but it is only effective if one person does it so therefore you arguing saying that everyone should have been nice is telling us to let them walk all over us, and as a effect of that telling us to encourage the insulting of us and our forum.