Honestly... I think we try too hard to make the settings Japanese instead of writing what we know. It's like, we love it because of the Japanese influence, and so we try to emulate it when we make it, but as we have very little actual understanding of Japan and its culture, we botch it, usually taking the worst of VNs and exaggerating them.
Which is why I'm (very slowly) putting together an otome I've been kicking around in my head, but it's set in New Jersey and has American culture instead. Once I make good headway I'd need artists and coders and stuff. Which reminds me I need to type out this idea I had for it in between reading Noble Works.